Saturday, March 29, 2008

Man delights me not (?)

Today I want to air a few thoughts that have been rattling around in my head for a while. These are related to the acceptability, or otherwise, of male bisexuality/bicuriousity.

Unless you've been living in another star system, where TV signals from the mid-1990s have yet to reach, you're undoubtedly aware that girls snogging each other is not really a bit taboo anymore. Thanks to everything from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine to The L Word, the media has become quite comfortable with straight women indulging in a little sapphic experimentation.

The result seems to be that female bisexuality/bicuriousity has become destigmatised in society. Of course there are still people who disapprove, but I get the feeling (from talking with friends and reading those sex surveys that pop up in independent newspapers and magazines every valentine's day) that a lot of straight girls are interested in trying an encounter with another girl.

For guys, on the other hand, there still seems to be a stigma. The media hasn't been flooded with male characters tongue-wrestling, the way girls did on Ally McBeal and whatever-else. Yet interestingly, if the sex surveys are to be believed, the number of bicurious guys is definitely on the increase.

So what's holding the guys back from going mainstream? I wonder if girls feel more comfortable experimenting with each other because the don't find each other threatening. Girls can snog on the dancefloor in a nightclub and write it off as a bit of fun. I wonder why guys can't. Maybe the difference lies partly in the fact that the gay male culture is well-established and visible, while the lesbian community is not so much so. Perhaps this makes guys feel more like they'll be perceived as joining the gay community, rather than just having a bit of fun and experimenting (which would make male bicuriousity feel like a more serious commitment than female bicuriousity).

Well, that's my random thought for the day. Comments?

Friday, March 14, 2008

Yup! Still here!

Well, it has been a while, but here's a quick update to say "we're still here". We've been travelling interstate catching up with our families, which has limited the sex-blogging opportunities. Hopefully we'll rectify that soon.

Also, I've decided to stop putting an "orgasms since last entry" count at the top of each post. It was starting to feel a bit too much like I was putting pressure on myself to perform. Shall be keeping the running total for the year, though.

And both Queenie and I were flattered to see comments on our blogs asking where we'd disappeared to. It gave us a big warm fuzzy feeling. Thanks :-)